Conventional wisdom tells us discipline is about willpower—forcing ourselves to do what’s “right” through grit and self-control. But what if discipline isn’t about punishment or rigidity? Behavioral expert Chase Hughes offers a fresh perspective: discipline is the act of prioritizing your future self’s needs over your present self’s desires. This subtle shift in mindset doesn’t just change how you approach goals—it reshapes your relationship with time, gratitude, and self-compassion.
The Three Selves – A Key Highlight by BSJ
“I have always enjoyed considering past me, present me, and future me as three different people… By viewing yourself as three different people, I’ve found it easier to zoom out from my own life and approach it from new angles.” – BSJ
Why does this work? Humans are notoriously better at advocating for others than themselves. When you frame decisions as acts of kindness for “future you,” it becomes easier to bypass short-term impulses. Skipping that late-night snack isn’t a deprivation—it’s a gift to tomorrow’s healthier, more energized version of yourself. Saving money instead of splurging feels less like a sacrifice and more like investing in a loved one’s security. By externalizing your choices, you tap into empathy and foresight, qualities we naturally extend to others.
Honoring the Efforts of Your Past Self
This mindset also transforms how you view your past. Instead of dwelling on mistakes or missed opportunities, Hughes’s approach encourages gratitude for the efforts your past self made. Did you meal-prep last Sunday? Thank past you for the hassle-free lunches this week. Stuck to a workout routine months ago? Acknowledge the stamina and confidence you’re reaping now.
Gratitude shifts the narrative from self-criticism to appreciation, creating a positive feedback loop. When you recognize past you’s contributions, you’re more motivated to “pay it forward” to future you. It’s no longer about rigid self-control—it’s about being a good teammate across time.
How to Start Prioritizing Your Future Self
True discipline is about prioritizing the needs of our future selves over momentary comfort. By shifting our mindset and implementing small, intentional habits, we can create a life where our future selves consistently thank us for the choices we make today. Here’s how to start building that future-focused discipline.
- Decision Check-Ins: When faced with a choice, ask: “What would future me need right now?” Visualize them—stressed, energized, healthy, or burnt out—and act accordingly.
- Write a Note to Future You: Journal about your goals and the steps you’re taking now. Revisit these notes weeks later to see how your efforts paid off.
- Celebrate the Wins: When present you reaps rewards (a promotion, a peaceful morning, a strong body), acknowledge past you’s role. It reinforces the value of discipline as a long-term partnership.
The Ripple Effect of Time-Travel Thinking
Viewing life through the lens of “three selves” does more than boost productivity—it fosters self-compassion and intentionality. You begin to see every choice as part of a larger story, where each version of you plays a vital role. Procrastination loses its grip because you’re no longer just avoiding discomfort; you’re actively nurturing someone worthy of care (even if that someone is you in six months).
So, the next time you’re tempted to hit snooze or binge Netflix instead of working on a project, pause. Ask yourself: What legacy do I want to leave for the person I’m becoming? The answer might just be the nudge you need to choose growth over instant gratification.
Your Turn: Make a choice today that your future self will appreciate tomorrow. Then, when the new day begins, take a moment to recognize and appreciate the person who made it possible—you.
